When we are born we are all diagnosed with the same condition: death. It is the only certainty in this life.
She comes for us all, yet it can be so difficult to talk about. So we ignore it, we hide it away in hospitals or care homes and refuse to be reminded of our faith. Those who are near it often express one common wish and that is to feel connected, to feel loved. Who else knows better the importance of this? Yet in these last days, that is when we feel most alone, most isolated, most scared. We do not how to best share this with our loved ones. I have seen it far too many times in the years I have worked as a carer. These privileged insights have inspired me to want to want to be there for you and your loved ones and to help bring back our inborn tribal, community feeling, where death is a ceremony integrated into life.
Offerings
DIE TO LIVE
For many of us death is a subject we do not want to approach so, what can happen is that fear may fester and grow in the background and start governing our choices, our life.
Conscious about it or not, we are all going through many spiritual deaths throughout our life and they usually become the biggest catalyst for our growth and soul expansion.
During our work together, I will help you create a safe container where we can look at and become more familiar with this imminent process in our life, therefore gaining the ability to respond more consciously to it. When faced, fear cannot get a hold on us and can actually be transformed into our driving force and precious reminder in this life. Why wait until you are older or get a terminal diagnosis or shocking news about someone else?
Here are some examples of how I can help you along this process:
Assessing your fears and feelings around death and bringing them into your conscious daily life
Life review and Meaning making
Creating your legacy
Supporting you in the grieving process of any kind (spiritual, physical, emotional)
How to integrate your loved ones in this process
Desires/decision setting for life and end of life support
Help putting your affairs in order (creating care plans, advance directives, living wills etc.)
I have often found that looking at how we would actually like our funeral rite of passage ceremony to be (if we are fortunate enough to be able to choose and plan it), brings a major sense of acceptance and cooperation with life. So this is something else that I am very grateful to be able to assist you with - embracing your (maybe quirky or socially unheard of) ideas and helping you to turn them into reality.
This is a very dear project to my heart, as I have seen the fruits it bears, if you are willing to approach this with full openness. A 3 month journey (or minimum of 3 sessions required), will be the beginning of a new way of life for you! I will be honoured to support you, so that together, we can create this new reality.
Sliding scale pricing available.
IN PERSON / LIVE IN SUPPORT
Would you prefer having hands on help and guidance accompanying/ living with you for some time?
As part of my work with the elderly I would often live with them or/and the family for a variable amount of time, being a presence to guide them through a more harmonious process.
Available to travel to you anywhere in the world, pricing to be agreed after discussing the details.
Sliding scale pricing available.
DYING WELL
Medical staff, as amazing as they may be, rarely have the time to discuss the process of dying, from a spiritual perspective, or how that applies in practicality. Especially in a chaotic or fast developing situation, working with a death doula means you have someone to look after your emotional, practical or spiritual needs.
The most common issue is that you may not be prepared for this chapter or had those important conversations that could help you and loved ones ease the transition.
So, in this package I can help you with:
Companionship
Learn what to expect and what you can do
Health care decision making
Instructions for possessions/pets
Organise burial plans, whether traditional or alternative/green
Hold space for rituals, ceremonies that create the sacred space to feel our feelings
Sliding scale pricing available.